comfort at the table
Dinnertime growing up
was always a comforting routine.
Nothing was exotic, everything familiar.
Some dishes took years to love,
but now Mom’s shepherd’s pie ranks high on my list –
always made with a pie shell from the freezer,
tomato-y beef, canned green beans,
salty, buttered mashed potatoes from a box,
and cheddar cheese on the top.
I’d smash it down with a fork and enjoy every perfect bite.
Mom’s spaghetti sauce over angel hair
and extra-buttery toasted bread
never disappointed.
And Saturday mornings brought a reliable rotation
of homemade waffles, pancakes, and French toast —
the best way to start a morning before my double shift at Chick-fil-A.
The cereal cabinet was never empty,
so I’d go there for a bowl four times a day;
(thank you, teenage appetite and metabolism.)
Ever reliable and easy,
cereal is still my breakfast staple,
even through my own children reach for granola bars.
The perfect toast and oatmeal Mom would bring
when anyone was sick in bed
met us with its warm grace.
Excellent eggs, bacon, and biscuits
was a dinner we’d always welcome.
The chicken pot pie that felt like it took forever to make
was always a masterpiece with that flaky crust, gooey filling,
and perfectly tender chicken.
We would venture out and try new dishes more often
when I started making a weekly meal for the family.
I did this as a teenager, and still love it now,
the adventure of cooking through a recipe book, front to back.
My ranch chicken became a new staple.
My couscous stir-fry became the reason for one sister’s lifelong stir-fry aversion.
My Dad-requested chicken fried steak stirred in me a deep enjoyment
for the slow process of care and handiwork
in making a warm meal for ones you love.
Mealtime was typically short and sweet
but we’d always sit together, always at the table.
Sometimes silently scraping our plates,
other times laughing hard and loud,
other times pondering Dad’s deep questions.
Opening our home to host others wasn’t frequent,
but it was a thrill when it happened,
especially for my sisters and me,
because then we could show off our toys and talents
to whichever eye would turn our way.
As we grew older, though,
the thrill came in sitting and soaking in
all of the adult conversations
and I’d learn so much about my quiet parents
when they’d be open and transparent
in their gospel hospitality.
Family dinner was a consistent liturgy,
joyfully prepared, lovingly served.
It was an anchor at the end of our days,
a light that drew us near to one another, into fellowship.
It was a quiet yet strong holding-back of disintegration and decay.
A peek into our future,
lasting togetherness and fullness.
There was always the kindness to wait for everyone,
the solemn bow of giving thanks,
or the doxology sung in unison.
Even still, when we gather at the holidays,
our mealtimes hold those comfort dishes of childhood,
met with our new favorites of today.
Those fork-fulls can take us to those times and places of years ago,
and we “remember when?” as well as wonder when —
all of our times and places meeting together around these meals.
And deep down, in ever hungry body,
we hope forward to distance no longer being a grief.
Lack no longer being a fear.
Home always and ever being where God is,
dwelling among us,
feasting beside us.